How to Be More Positive About What Happens
Positive emotions (thoughts) lead to positive emotions. Negative meanings (thoughts) lead to negative emotions. Positive thoughts do not give rise to negative emotions, and negative thoughts do not give rise to positive emotions. Negative emotions weaken you spiritually, emotionally and sometimes even physically.
Let's refer to positive meanings as green thoughts (give them "forthcoming") and negative thoughts as red thoughts ("stopping" in their songs).
In life, you seek to get green light whenever you can. You're happy when you get them and they let you keep on going. The red lights, however, cause unnecessary delays, slow down your progress and can cause you to stress. The same goes for green thoughts and red thoughts.
Almost at the peak of our personal growth lies a place where you can view events with clearance and have neither green nor green thinking about it. I was very excited in one or two cases I have been able to do this. The rest of the time I use methods to be aware of the meaning I have put on events and other methods to ensure I choose to put green rather than red meaning to the event. Successful people who emphasize the meaning of events and challenges are easier to overcome while you are positive rather than negative emotions.
Since the ultimate success of all events in your life is your personal growth, you can always find a green meaning to even cover what's the worst event. A green conclusion might be, for example, another lesson learned, more understanding, stronger nature or greater wisdom gain.
For example, arsonist burned a block of classrooms into local schools. As for the children and parents, the fee for the teachers was even more serious. One of the teachers lost 25 years of teaching material and was so shocked by the event being around the camp and the barbecue caused her a distress. She was possibly unable to teach at school and went on stress. Next year, her long-term society broke down, she moved a house and took custody for her children. I saw her two years later and asked how she was going. She smiled and said, "Out of the ashes of despair, tear the seeds off of the new beginning. Beautiful, I've started yoga and meditate and I feel much more at peace than I have before. I suspect the arsonist is blazing gave the wind under my wings , my life. "
So how are you putting green rather than red meaning in an event? There are several ways to empower yourself by turning red thoughts into green thoughts and putting more positive significance to an event:
- Use challenging thoughts.
- The Audit List.
- Using a positive language.
- Ask yourself better questions.
- Judge circumstances different.
- Accept gratitude.
You will be happier if you always try to find the silver lining in each cloud and celebrate the cup half full, rather than claiming that the cup is half empty. You are responsible for the meaning you put on an event. You can choose to put either positive beneficial meaning to an event or negative ineffective meaning.
1. Challenging thoughts
Challenging thoughts are thoughts that encourage your thinking. When you have a deep thought (and we all do) the best challenge is to challenge the thinking behind the red thinking and turn it into green thinking.
Challenging thoughts are thoughts like:
- Is this true?
- Am I exaggerating?
- Did I do my best?
- Why do I think this is true?
- What examples can I find doing this?
For example, Jolie finds himself in front of the TV on Friday night. She thinks: "I'm so loser. I have no friends." This is a red thought. As soon as Jolie is aware that she has a red thought, she can challenge her thinking by asking herself: "Is it true? She will then get the information she needs to change the red-minded thinking of green thinking. thinking more than positive, she can then assume she's no longer alone on Friday night.
2. The Review
We Do not Go Again, By & # 39. Just Try To Go To Another direction. "- S. Patton
When you have scored your red thoughts, use a review to change the minds of green thoughts and avoid negative or unthinkable feelings. In a nutshell, review simply needs to look at situations with green glasses rather than with red glasses.
Life always gives us the ability to reboot red thoughts in green thoughts. The weeks of the most difficult, the hardest employers, those who break the heart into a small piece; These are the moments that offer us the greatest opportunity for self-learning and growth. Once the pain has broken, those moments we can be grateful for. They most contributed to our nature, our courage and ourselves. For this reason, you can always view any event with more than one perspective.
Example # 1
One is driving their new sports car along the winds. The wind is twisted through his hair and he feels good about life. A young boy on the side of the road throws a stone in his car. The outraged man stops his car and storms on the young boy. His muscles are tied and his jaw is dense from the rate of rage that is sucked through him.
When the man approaches, he notice that a young boy hurts, appears to be a shock and has tears in his eyes. The young boy says, "I'm sorry that I long for this rock on the car sir. We had an accident and our mom is stuck in the car at the bottom of the hill to prevent you from stopping and helping us."
Example # 2
One day, the ass went on by watching a butterfly float in the sunshine when he fell down in the well. A farmer came to examine the noise that the donkey was doing and was very afraid to learn that his donkey had fallen into the well. He spent a long time, but could not see any way to save the donkey from the well.
After a while he found out:
- The donkey would be missing but a farmer could live without him;
- Asnan would look very bad if it's dying at the bottom of the well;
- The well had loosened and was quite dangerous; and
- The best solution would be to fill the well with dirt. This would stop the terrible smell from being a dead donkey soon and would make safe safety.
Then the farmer and his neighbors went to fill the well with dirt. They said about life and the weather as they longed for a dirt after the dirt of the well.
At first the ass was outraged by insult and the decision of the farmer had done. His cruelty increased with every dirty cloth and the pain he did when he hit him on his back. Then the donkey realized that the pain from the dirt that collapsed would not kill him. He also realized that if he looked his body, dirt fell off, landed on the ground and he could stand on him.
The farmers continued to rinse dirt into the well and the ashes continued to shake it. Sometimes farmers were surprised to see donkey ears rising from the fountain.
Example # 3
Suzanne did not have the skills she needed to get a part-time promotion of the government. She had never been successful at work and had no experience in presenting or managing meetings. The person she shared with was allowed to work full-time for two weeks. During this time, some major changes in political policy were implemented, and a seriously incapacitating employee had to go through a formal warning process.
Her supervisor, who usually had these tasks, became ill at the same time. Therefore, Suzanne had to do the following tasks she had never done before:
- Take the inadequate worker with a formal warning process;
- Draft documents and introduce them to the Cabinet Minister; and
- Board meeting for 50 people, including the Cabinet of Ministers and 40 senior officials.
At the end of two weeks she told me she had only lived through the worst two weeks of her life. It was not until I told her: "Did you not have two weeks of talent to apply for your presentation?" that she smoked.
How do you reflect your perspective on circumstances? Once again it's as simple as pulling you up and asking yourself questions like:
- "What's another meaning this situation could have?"
- "What is another view of this situation?"
- "What other danger could this have caused?"
- "What is a positive exit that could be caused by this situation?"
Example # 1
Suppose a father does not allow his daughter's teens to have a dinner with her friends. The youth sees that as. "My father does not love me and he does not care if I'm humiliated in front of my friends."
The youngster might wonder, "What else does this event mean?"
She could conclude: "He loves and cares for me so much that he wants me to be safe and with appropriate goals."
Example # 2
Tell one father of two desires to start his own business. The father sees the situation as: "I could not possibly start my own business because I'm one father."
He might wonder: "What is another viewpoint I could take in this situation?"
He might conclude: "Anyone who can raise two children on their own and stay there for them 24/7 has the perseverance and commitment needed to run a successful business."
3. Use a positive language
Another way to adopt a positive perspective is to use a positive language. Our unconscious thoughts do not admit negative like "not", "not", "should not", etc. If I tell you, "Do not think about your left elbow." What did you think about? That's right, your left elbow. If I tell you, "Do not think of a big slim tan with a red bow." What did you think about? That is correct. To even sense the lesson you need to think about what you do not think about. By using a negative impact on your language (including self-talk), you focus on what you are trying to avoid.
For example, if you say to yourself, "I'm not thinking about how far I'm in debt," how far in debt are you exactly what you've been concentrating on.
However, you must have the right focus and perspective if you affect your inner suicide positively in terms of what you want to focus on, rather than negative about what you do not want to focus on. The same principals apply here and set goals.
For example, when you go to a grocery store, choose "Remember the bread," rather than "Do not forget the bread."
This technology works equally well when talking to other people. For example, you see a four-year-old jump on the couch. Instead of saying, "Do not jump on the couch", put it positive in terms of the behavior you want. You could try, "Keep up the floor, and come here to hug", "Keep the trampoline in place" or "Get off the coach and play on the floor."
4. Ask yourself more Questions
We have already seen the power of using questions to help us challenge red thoughts and to reframe ourselves to adopt more positive perspectives for events. The way you ask yourself also affects the perspective you take in a situation.
Questions like "Why can not I do this?" assume:
- There is something to do; and
- You can not do that.
Questions like "How can I easily do this work?" assume:
- It can work;
- There are many ways to do that; and
- That you can easily do it.
Say, for example, that you are worried about your weight. If you ask yourself, "Why am I so fat?" Egypt "How can I not be fat anymore?" You have focused on your weight (the problem), rather than on the solution. Questions like this continue to renew your experience of yourself as being fat.
It's more useful instead of asking yourself a question like, "How do I get well, healthy and strong?" A question like this is more useful for your feelings, thoughts and self-esteem as it is expected:
- It is possible for you to be fit, healthy and strong.
- There are many different ways in which you can achieve this goal for yourself.
- You can do it.
- It can be done easily.
The power of asking the right question is very evident in Stanislavsky Lech's history. He was in prison in cattle camps during the Second World War. After other people told him it was not possible, he continued to ask himself how he could hurry. By keeping it, he kept escaping the open as a potential in his life. Those around him had ruled out the possibility of their lives and stopped looking for ways to escape.
Sometimes the answer came to him. He described naked, climbed to the back of the truck, which was piled up with bodies from the gas chamber and hurried.
5. Considerable Situation
"No pressure, no diamonds." – Anonymous
When we judge whether circumstances or events are positive or negative, we do that by comparing it with something else. We judge circumstances as negative when we compare it with something better. We judge the situation as positive when we compare it to something worse.
The key to maintaining a positive attitude is to be aware of the comparison you make and choose only those who strengthen you. In the following picture, Roman could be very pleased with a small car if he had a bicycle ride. However, he could be unhappy with a small car if he knocked it together by having the top of the sports car. How he will feel about it depends on the choice he makes.
There are always many perspectives that you can choose to judge whether an event has a positive or negative significance for you.
- The turnover of millions of dollars to a small business partner is a cause for celebration compared to what she did last year.
- Turnover in millions of dollars for big businesses is a catastrophe in comparison to the turnover it made last year.
- A small cottage with running water can be a wonderful thing for tribesmen, but the terrible thing of many millionaires lived in 5 star hotel rooms.
How we judge whether the situation is positive or negative and its impact on our response is beautifully shown in a story that was distributed on the internet for several years.
Sample Letter from University Student:
Dear Mom and Dad
Sorry, you were writing for a long time, but my writing tools were destroyed in my fire I am out of the hospital and the doctor says that I should be able to lead a normal healthy life. A young young man named Pete saved me from the fire and kindly invited me to share the apartment with me He is very good and polite and good family so I think you agree when I say you get married last week. I know you'll be even more excited when I tell you you're going to go very good grandmothers.
It was actually not a fire, I had not been to a hospital, I was not married and I was not pregnant but I made a mistake of my biological exam and I just wanted to make sure that when I said you, you put it to the right point of view.
6. Accepting Gratitude
Accepting gratitude also helps maintain a positive perspective on circumstances . It's often easier to subvert negative terrible & # 39; state but doing it does not support you or helps you get through the day. Instead, choose the silver lining in each cloud and embrace the blessings that come from the same situation and understand and grow from the lessons learned and the experience you have received.
You can find reasons to be grateful in any case. Example # 1
- At the death of a friend or family, there is reason to be grateful for the time you had with them and the joy they had in your life.
- In serious illnesses there is an opportunity for legitimate time, recovery and consideration.
- The child with physical impairment is grateful for the ability to share time with a soul quickly, a brave brave person who may have a great deal of teaching.
- The loss of tangible assets is an opportunity to start again.
- At the end of the relationship there is a chance for a new beginning.
- If a company fails, valuable knowledge about what to do next.
Example # 2
As another example, Andrew had been killing Sharon for 8 years. They decided to marry. Their family members fly from various countries to the wedding. It was the night before the wedding. Andrew realized before the wedding dinner that his greatest fear was to leave the church after the wedding and see the girl he should have married. It took a lot of courage, but he stood up on the wedding day and called at the wedding. This became one of the worst times of his life, both financially and emotionally. Three weeks later, he injured himself while playing sports and was admitted to hospital. His ancestors visited him at a hospital and told him he was getting "just his dessert". Half an hour later, the nurse changed his mind and into his room went the nurse he married. If he had not been brave and had a hard time in connection with breaking his wedding, he could never meet his psychologist. (His survivors also met their psychologists a few months later).
Example # 3
Julianne was repeatedly mumbled in his adolescence. She might have asked people for sympathy and used it as justified excuse or reason to ensure that things in her life had not expired. Instead, today she can go back to this event and be grateful because she gave her the drive, stubbornness and determination to succeed and prove to be worthy of love and respect.