For a while, I was upset and excited to hear about "Freedom from Self-esteem" today announced by American coaches and therapists. Certainly a mistake! After all, do these people not survive running self-esteem plans? But the more I thought of it, the more it makes sense – and it strikes me especially because it reflects the strategy I'm going to work. Let me tell you more …
Nowadays, we must spend our time trying to do more (and I've been as guilty as most), squeezing more and more actions in our time. More work, more leisure and yes, more self-esteem. We aim to be better business people, better parents, better affiliates, better everything.
Of course, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be our best, but the danger is that we can end up focusing on our "out there" at some point when we have achieved what we do, and then we will we're okay. Impact on this is the idea that we were not right now that we should be better. All of this can lead to frustration and dissatisfaction, little self-esteem and of course a lot of stress. And because we are constantly focused on the future, the current moment, with all the experience of the resource, can overcome us.
Hermann Hesse's great novel "Siddhartha" encapsulates this idea perfectly:
"When someone is looking, Siddhartha said, it becomes very easy for him to see only what he seeks, unable to find something, not to absorb anything because he thinks only because he has goals because he is obsessed with his goal … but finding ways: being free, be responsive, having no purpose "
I I have been practicing an ever-less thought in my life and work. Mindfulness comes from Buddhist meditative traditions, and putting it very simply, is about being conscious and aware at the moment, without judgment, without striving to be somewhere else or anyone else. It turns out that this is naturally healthy and indeed over the last 20 years, it has been shown that the secular version of Mindfulness has been very effective in helping people suffering from this injury of stress, depression and anxiety in the 21st century.
So why not take some time every day to stop doing, and just be? You can simply start by focusing your attention on a few minutes in your breathing; Every time you are disturbed by thoughts, emotions or physical feelings, acknowledge them, let them go and rest in your spirit. You may also be interested in taking time every day to give full attention to one simple thing; eat a meal, wash it up and really be there with all the assistants. Just a few minutes each day, to be free, to be receptive, to have no goal. Go ahead, try!