It's 9:00 AM on Thursday. I send my column to rest for my editor. Little do I know how much rest I'm going to get.
At 10:30 I start to get cramps in my abdomen. At 12:30 I am washing sweat and my wife advises me to be lighter before their eyes. Not a good sign.
At 3:00 pm my wife takes me to see my doctor who sends me to get a CT scan on my belly. Analysis: Acute vasoconstriction. At 5:30 we have been ready for emergency assistance. About 10 am the attachment and I feel much better. As this was just not on schedule for Thursday, I got a lot more rest than I was going for.
I'm sharing this fun story with you because it was very stressful and very unexpected, but I think there are some methods we can lift from the experience to control stress.
Stress requires us to make changes. Have you noticed how our most stress is not on the calendar and not intended? But we take these random events personally. "Why does that always happen to me?" "It's just not fair!" "So I'm just ignoring this and continuing to do what I've been doing."
Serious stress is a sign that something is just not right. You must make changes to resolve the problem. You adapt, you ask, you overcome. Or you do not, and you get run over of stress.
Stress requires our attention. Stress can be easy to ignore, at least at first. Therefore, we tend to do something silly when stressful situations arise. Ignoring stress makes it rarely go away.
If the car is noise, you can turn the radio so you no longer hear noise, but the problem still exists. Pay attention to what stress is trying to tell you. Addressing the problem is the best way to deal with stress and solve the problem.
Stress management requires support from others. The power of society in stress management must not be overrated. One of the things that made all the surgery and follow-up so much manageable were our "support families" in church; our son; and our neighbors. We all need what company author and speaker Harvey McKay call "3 friends." These are people you can call anytime day or night, and they are going to be there for you and you there for them. When you're under stress, it's not noble or cold trying to go it alone. It's just bad.
Stress management requires us to take measures. The best way to deal with a problem is to take action. Although it was tempting to just go home and wait for my stomach cancer to come, I somehow realized that this was unlike what I had previously found. When you're under stress, sitting around and waiting to pass will not cut it. Take action, do something.
Client recently shared this quote with me: "There are many performance plans. If what you're doing is working, keep it on and this will usually lead to solving the problem. do not work Do keep changing what you do until something works and you are well.