How often have you taught someone else for your own mistakes? We do not like to think that we do it but sometimes look at yourself and hear what you are saying. You may be surprised by what you hear.
In the church recently I was buying in his store and the cashier had his daughter-press keys on the keyboard. When I handed my credit card, she just finished telling the daughter that I was writing a review. The daughter immediately pressed the button following the instructions from her mother. When the mother took the credit card, she started kissing the baby and said, "Look, this is why I do not want you to touch buttons" and she had to delete the order and start again. The girl said she had only pushed what the mother told her.
The more genuine we can be ourselves, the more real we can be with others. The closer we can get to know ourselves and acknowledge that we were wrong the closer we become ourselves.
Here are some things to consider:
1) How often do I have to teach someone something else when it was actually wrong?
2) What is my fault?
3) Do I apologize for getting out of my condition?
4) What excuses do I do?
5) Is a pattern?
6) Why should I teach others instead of accepting my own mistakes or mistakes?
7) What can I do differently next?
Others notice when we step into an accusing mode. We will feel better about us when we can take ownership of what we do and say. Better than when we make a conscious decision to omit negative factors ourselves, we make room for a positive one to take its place. A win-win for everyone!