When I talk about addiction, as a consultant, I can not help but accept that I'm an addict. There is no doubt that I'm an addict in recovery, but anyway, I'm an addict! I have been clean and sober for more than twelve years and I'm working for 13 years, one day at a time! I am CAADAC Certified Counselor, California. I am a member of both California and the National Association of Alcohol Counselors. More importantly, I am a member of Anonymous and Anonymous Alcoholics. I have worked as a Therapy Therapist and have been part of starting two new, effective treatment plans. Again, all this does not change because I'm an addict. Once an addict, always an addict … This is good, although some may not want to acknowledge what I say. In my mind there are no such words as "recovery".
I think addiction is very abundant at the beginning and later becomes prolonged and progressive, because of "FEAR"! There are all kinds of fears that can contribute to the development of personality. An insecure child can develop many fears. One thing in particular occurs as the cause of this insecure, and it is a poor parent. I heard someone say that 96% of all American families can be classified as static! This was based on the definition of interference as being; When one or more individuals do not have to be met, in family organization. An example would be; if dad has realized that his son will be what dad never had the opportunity to be when the son is inclined and possibly meant to be something else. In this situation, the son probably will never be able to please daddy. This conflict often places mom in the middle, feels like she should be able to "fix this" issue. If there are siblings, do not share because sibling competition can grow from the conflicts that can be sustained. Because one family member dispersed expectations that were directed to one family member, all family affairs have become unstable. What is the worst in this particular situation is that Dad is absolutely convinced that he is doing the best for his son, so blind of his own faith and the desire that he has no idea that he is the source of most of the problems that develop in this family! Two of the options the son has is either healthy for him or the family. He can only, suck and try to please dad or he can completely reject the pressure, which in all cases will probably have negative results for him and the rest of the family. This is just one of the most common cases of what seems to be trivial and turns out to be disastrous. This also very often leads to "drugs" in the equation. Every family member, except "maybe" the motivator, will live with unacceptable fears in his life.
Examples like above are generally overlooked and well-hidden problems in many families. Fear of some kind or otherwise is usually the cause of anxiety. Subsequently, anxiety can usually be temporary due to creative changes in substances or psychotropic drugs. Psychoactive is the category that all commonly used drugs fall into. Anxiety is usually associated with fear in some way or another. Being shy simply creates a lot of fear that abused drugs can temporarily overcome. That's, they can, until the drug starts to create new problems. Stop and reflect how many fears men can develop. Some disruption to personality evolves because of fear as simple as being very uncomfortable around a lot of people. Many children who have only one gender role in their lives can develop very unnecessary fear, it is difficult to identify until it has already been damaged.
I have learned a lot about formal education, but I am still the most familiar with my own case and used it to understand the ones I serve. I have always been afraid in many ways. I have always had a general fear of life itself. What I mean to say is that regardless of what I did or how others see me, I'm personally uncertain about myself and need to constantly use the skills I've worked as a counselor to deal with my own self-esteem. This gives me a significant precious quality of "compassion" when he is a consultant for other drugs. When I'm working on treatment plans, at a single meeting with parolees who have completed prison, I had many to be afraid. They are often afraid of the environment that is new to them. Very often, they are afraid of failure in treatment and many consequences that it might introduce. They are afraid they let someone down. They are afraid that nobody will trust them again. They are afraid of life without the medicine they have used most often in their lives. They are afraid that their wife will not love the one they must become and have never seen before. They are afraid they will never get a job that becomes "paid employment" because of their criminal case. They are afraid that they must be competitive in the community without a driver's license. The list never stops and I fully understand that many of these legitimate fears can cause mistakes of treatment. Thus it will be necessary to deal with fear becomes a part of drug treatment.
The thing is that it is usually not possible to overcome all fears. My experience has taught me that many "normal" people have developed copy technology to live with their fear. I think this is what I've done, myself, and it's not easy for me, by any means! After 12 years of openness, I still have to go to AA and NA meetings, like vaccination to prevent disease other than addiction, from coming back. This causes the nature of drug use is a truly lifelong process. Everyone has fear. But, not everyone knows that somewhere in the back of their minds, they may be able to tie this anxiety with a drug attack. I tell you first that this is a fact for the addict.
Group therapy has become the standard for dealing with these conflicts of fear. However, it does not always work for all participants. Many people can only face this, often very personal, problems in individual meetings with a therapist, counselor or 12-degree sponsor. This is also where the importance of knowing self-esteem is important. This is truly the strength of the 12-step concept that originated with anonymous alcoholics. Alcoholics or addict strengthens the strength of the group, at meetings, to keep him over one day at a time until the next meeting while he is a "novice"! For some, this continues for many months and even years. There are even some who need to use this method to remind their lives if they have to be forgiven of this drug! This amazing "life project", AA, has been adapted to cope with most addictions that people are getting accustomed to. The 12-Step Program is more valuable than most people could ever imagine. It has spread all over the world. I live in a town that has a population of over 250,000. It's not a big city or a small town. That's, I believe, the representative of "America's Middle East", and with only AA and NA there are over 350 meetings each week.
Anyway, I'll always get back to the 12th stage when I talk about recovery! Although I'm a qualified adviser, I realize that when I'm able to help an addict, it's because they've decided to "help him or herself." Those suffering from disease addiction are so complex that we must be truly "recovered" we must never forget about the consequences of drug abuse. We, in my opinion, never stop having to deal with fear. Whether it looks, or not, there are some nervous features that all addicts have developed, always just below the surface and capable of causing backlashes in the disease. With the 12 steps we can never have to deal with this one!