In the University Management Book, by dealing with stress in a changing world, I define stress as "an integral trade between an individual and potential stress that causes stress responses." This way of eliminating stress combines three factors in most modern definitions of stress;
(1) Looking at stress as a potential strain,
(2) Converting potential stress to actual stress involves the trade between you and potential stress that occurs in a particular holistic context and
The consequence of business interactions causes physiological stress responses.
Stress begins with the presence of potential stress, something that is personally threatening and has the ability to trigger stress reactions within you. This potential stress may be a person, place, thing, condition, thought, feeling or body sensation. There is an unlimited number of potential stressors. It is important to understand that stress is really only possible stress until you feel comfortable and can not cope with it. A bill, for example, is usually not stressful if you have enough money in your account to pay it. It becomes a stressor when you do not know how you pay it or when you know you need the money for something else. Often the threat posed by potential stress is more vague than just described and the inconvenience you find when it is due in part to your inability to put your finger on what makes you uncomfortable. The threat might be your self-esteem, dear ones or various other things.
Business is a real estimate of the threat posed by potential stress. It involves weighting the potential threat of potential stress against the sensible ability to cope with it. Treatment involves your own psychological strengths and external resources. An important fact about dealing with stress is that they do not appear in the vacuum. They are holistic because they affect your overall level of physical, social, mental, emotional, intellectual, workplace and environmental issues when you get them. Your overall level of health and well-being provides a guideline (or context) for impact and assessment of potential stress.
Your assessment of potential stress is always under the influence of time and place where you get it and your health and well-being at the time. This is the reason why you estimate the same potential stress differently when you get it. Not only will you have to do it at another time, and in different situations, you must be another person (little older and wiser, maybe more rests, maybe on your way home from a wonderful holiday, etc.).
The last part of my diagram repeats the reactions that are the result when you perceive potential stress as threatening and beyond your ability to cope. The stress reaction begins in your brain as it transmits messages through your body through the neuropathy and circulatory hormone that initiate a complex response designed to activate energy to fight or escape stress. This fight or flight reaction is immediate, life-threatening and the same for all who respond to all the stresses. If the fight or flight is not possible, your body changes to a lower intensity that responds to the presence of the stressor. Over time, if stress is not removed, or does not affect it, it will have to wash you. While the stress reaction is initially useful and designed to help you harm and save your life, frequent or continuous activation of this same response can cause serious physical and psychological health problems.
Stress As a Whole Phenomenon
It is possible to use traffic and to be 20 minutes late for the meal as an example of what I mean by holistic stress factors. Imagine you're on my way to work this morning. Last night you had a bitter argument with your husband / wife and fell asleep on the couch. You had enough night and woke up late, with pain. Running late, you fly to get out of the house, forget your briefcase and not time for breakfast. On the way to work, you buy a coffee and egg mix in the infusion window at a fast-food snack bar. Still angry with your partner and feel reluctant to endure you, pull yourself out of the store without searching and almost a ram in another car. You swerve to avoid another driver and in the process pour hot coffee on your new business you just received last night. Five miles to 30 miles inclined to work there was an accident on the road with a tractor car and a small carriage that slows the traffic. You know it's going to make you 20 minutes late for work and you're about to lose your command. Now you're very furious and yelling and screaming at the accident when you send it on the highway. You fumble for your cell phone and while you try to drive and call, call your boss to explain that you are late at work. The perfect sense of helplessness and inability to cope with this situation sounds the warning to start stress response.
Let's look at the same accident and 20 minute delay in different circumstances. Imagine it's six months later. You are on your way to work this morning. Last night, have a wonderful romantic evening with your husband / wife. Your daughter slept over the friends of the house, and your spouse suggested that you play a little tennis together, leaving late dinner and drinks, even if it was in the middle of the week. You have a great game of tennis, a wonderful meal, shared a wonderful bottle of wine and had the best sex for a long time by knowing that your daughter was asleep with my friend. You slept like you and woke up late, but with a smile on your face.
You run out of the house, but be sure to stop and give your partner a big hug and kiss. On the way to work, you buy a coffee and egg mix in the infusion window at a fast-food snack bar. You are careful not to leak the coffee over you as you slowly drag into the traffic. The car cuts in front of you but you see it coming and can avoid it without leaking coffee over you. When you go out of the store you will find smiling and singing along the track on the radio. You can not remember when the egg sandwich smells so good. In a few minutes you reach the highway. Five miles to 30 miles inclined to work there was an accident on the road with a tractor car and a small carriage that slows the traffic. You know it was going to make you 20 minutes late for work. When you go through the accident, you apply your coffee and are grateful, it's not you in the wreck. You switch over and call your boss on your mobile phone, explaining that you were late at work. You call the man you had the command with, apologize and reschedule for another day.
In both cases you were in the same potential stressful state; running behind schedule, stuck in traffic and being 20 minutes late for work and appointment. You experienced potential stress in two different situations. These circumstances and the time between two cases certainly knew how you perceived potential stress every time he introduced himself. At first, you were already tired and bad from past evening and early morning events. Under these circumstances you rush unnecessary and distracted. Being stuck in traffic and being late at work was very threatening and something you just can not cope with. In the later scenario, you were in such a good mood from the events of early evening and early morning that you felt you could agree with almost everything. You were thinking better and realized that dashing unnecessarily would not allow you to work much faster at the time of the morning. Rather than focusing on you, you were lucky you were safe in your car when you skied behind the accident.
A New Way of Looking To Deal With
Definition of stress as an integral trade between an individual and potential stress-causing stress sets up a new way of dealing with stress. When you look at stress this way, you no longer see it as something that just happens to you and is beyond your control. Stress is more than just "accounts" or "traffic" or "government." Stress is now viewed as something you can play an active part in understanding and managing. This gives you the power in that it provides many places where you can step in and grab the business. Progress from potential stress to actual stress and stress can not happen automatically. You play the biggest part to determine how it works.
The first way to intervene is to do a minority movement in your language. Just using the words potential stress, instead of calling them stressors, defuses their power to create stress. It allows you to stop accepting old-fashioned belief that certain issues are inherently stressful. All control of universal stress (things that threaten everyone under all circumstances) are nonsense and something you will no longer just accept without any questions.
Another example of how to grab a jump from potential stress to emphasize is to build a toolbox of different types of methods based on value and work for you. In my approach to stress management, I teach students and clients a variety of methods and stages of processing that will provide them with all the tools they need to deal with infinite variety of potential stress pressures. Think about each waste strategy as a resource that you have at your disposal to deal with stressful effects. The more different resources you have at your disposal, the easier is to find one who works for you against a certain load at a certain location and time. Once you have developed such a measure of tactics to deal with you, you begin to build trust in your ability to accept almost all potential stressful effects. This is called perceive your ability to cope with. If you think you can handle potential stress, it will keep you from perceiving it as threatening. In other words, if you think that potential stress is not threatening and you think you can cope with it, you can support stress responses.
Finally, by understanding that the stress business is wholesome by nature, you will start to recognize an important role that your health plays in stress response. Since all stresses affect your overall well-being (physical, social, mental, emotional, intellectual, professional and environmental), you can become more stress-free by building high-quality health. High-level health can help you prevent potential stressors from becoming real stressors by giving you the energy and resources that you need to accurately assess and deal with properly.