When I was a young man, I was worried a lot. I fretted everything and I thought I had all the diseases known in medicine. I remember being afraid to marry. I loved Carol and wanted to spend my life with her, but what if something happened to her and I was left alone. Worse, what if we had kids and something terrible became Carol and the kids? Would not it be better to avoid these terrible assets by being alone? You can see that my life was ruled out of fear of "what if" of life. Something had to change and only I could change it.
I began to research and read all I could get in the area of personal growth and stress management. The first book I read was Norman Vincent Peale "The Power of Positive Thinking" This wonderful little paperback turned on the flame and I followed "How to Stop Worrying and Starting to Live" by Dale Carnegie and Psycho Cybernetics by M. Maltz. These three books were my initials, so to speak. I went along with them and the results have been dramatic. A list of useful books and tapes has grown exponentially over time. And even if I do not read them as I once believed, they are always close to calling a great expense once in a while.
One thing I need to emphasize is that you can read all the books in the world about the subject of change and stress management and nothing will happen unless you apply what you learned. I spent 30 minutes a day practicing what I had learned and I was faithful to this chronological order. To this day, I'm crazy about my relaxation time and when I miss a day or two, my wife can notice the difference. I can always count on "Mike, have you been laughing at LaTely?" This actually means: "You start to get up and get back to it now!"
I had to be a personal person A. This makes me a very energetic and enthusiastic speaker and I can not understand it. But I'm not talking 24 hours a day, seven days a week and I do not want to go through life in stable corridors. That's why I need a slow-down system, stay calm and enjoy your trip. This I have discovered with progressive relaxation and humor.
Recently I sat around an eruption with friends when someone asked how I could go around Canada and the United States to talk about stress management with humor and relaxation when I'm not always stressed myself. This comment indicates significant misunderstanding of the teaching-learning process. I believe we teach what we most need to learn. That's why I'm writing and talking about stress management. My life time to control stress and stay calm in a rather insane and frenetic world has taught me a lot and I want to share my discovery with people with similar stress problems. I have not coped with the process but I have certainly come a long way and learned a lot. I have a lot to share.
If we held everyone until we were perfect before we shared our information about any subject, nobody would share anything with anyone. We are all working in progress. While I'm not interested in achieving perfection, I'm very interested in success. This is what is very important. Completeness is boring, boring and can be obsessive. Perfectionists are often hurt to stay around and live with anyway.