It is said that most of the 911 calls relate to domestic violence. What causes so much domestic violence and how can you get under control? The consequences are from unpleasant questions about life and death. They can be in the form of oral or psychological treatment, family and family isolation, threats, all types of physical abuse of spouses or children, bedwetting, breaking things, stalking, shaking, punching, slaughter, muscle relaxant injuries requiring hospitalization murder. House abuse is not a mere male symptom. Women can be physically offensive and also especially children, but also men who often avoid punishment for fear of contempt.
The most common solution is separation or divorce. Incidentally, self-inflicted abuse or suicide is the way out. It is more common than we think, often in most illegal subjects. The recent separation of two close friends who seemed to be the perfect, loving, compatible couple came as a total surprise. One never knows what happens in the privacy of others.
Larry MacFarland was a professor of anatomy at UC Davis. He had a beautiful home and a family of three teenagers. I got to know him better when he spent a sabbatical year in my labs on NASA. He changed home on weekends – 2 hours drive. He was always cheerful, helpful, relaxed, rarely drank, and was fond of his wife when we shared children's stories. One Sunday morning, the facade of the Sacramento Bee headline came to the end of "UC Davis Professor kills families cooking at home and shoots themselves." We were all stunned. None of us had suspected something was wrong. What the demon had led to this behavior, he took to his grave.
There are often common doctrines of drinking, gambling, women or other harmful tactics that provide temporary escape from the real world.
A recent report on suicide police officer Richard Fuller, aged 55, can shed light on some underlying causes. Married with four adult children, this incident would usually have been another statistics. However, he was the head of security for Camilla, Duke of Cornwall. Sgt Fuller took 29 years of career as a policeman, but Sgt Fuller shot himself on a fishing trip at home after his wife Jill told him "a series of violent events". At the request it became apparent that for three years he was refined by "illegal violence while arrested to attach a suspected head to the floor with his boot."
Whether this incident was part of the pattern of violence or behavior was an inevitable psychological duty in his professional and personal life, he considered psychological support and took time and medication for depression. Sgt Fuller son described his father as being in control. He was close to retirement and did not know where his life was going? He suffered stress at the workplace and felt that he was losing control of his professional life while his personal life was breaking down. He had trouble managing his temper.
Physicians agree that it's hard to predict any action – prevent someone from taking their lives – if they're determined, but there's a lot to learn from this example.
The management of stress really depends on the sense of control of the situation. Not unlike happiness, feeling in control is a state of mind. It can be strengthened with previous positive experiences, good planning and self-confidence. That there before means that your mind and brain can matter how you feel. The solution comes down to working with the logic of why and what you are finding and accepting certain backing technology. Feeling out of control or losing control is the safest way to unmanageable stress. The ultimate consequence of unmanageable stress is either to take it out to others or, as in this case, the self-esteem of someone else or person.
The following tips to help you regain control.
o Be aware that 90% of all the stress we experience we would imagine. We get nervous about what others think – they like us or not – we interpret and respond to other actions, worry about what might happen and usually at all.
o Do something about things that you can control and release what you can do about. We only control what we think, find, say or do; not how others feel or work. Sgt. His fuller opinion is about his job, respect for his collections and recognition. He did not control what others thought of him except to do the best he could. Sgt. Fuller was worried about the uncertainty of his protest. He saw retirement in the past, reducing his personal worth. However, his retirement plans were entirely under his control. Instead of working with his family or professional help to develop a program of interests or activities, he could get excited, his response was depression and increased domestic violence. This did not mean the cause of his stress: retirement.
o When you have stressful situations, do the following:
– Take a deep stomach breath and breathe
– Release your shoulders from your ears and let go of your jaw.
– Quit consciously and lower your heart rate.
– Close your eyes and lower your blood pressure.
– Take a few seconds to ask yourself "what's wrong with you?" Anyone else? Something else? Self? Do not let it progress in stress.
In the morning when I left the road I had a flat tire. It's a nuisance, but it's not worth it to worry about it, though it could easily accumulate at full load. I had to be in an hourly session. Worsening or angry would not help the tire or meeting. I called to apologize. Ask someone to care if I did not do it in time. It would be easy for things to get rid of the board. Call AAA road service; checked the product; checked for the key; found it missing; more potential cause for stress. Called my car garage and hoped they received it after the last service. They did. They sent someone over the city that came about the same as the AAA man. Another option to reduce risk would be to park the car, get a taxi and get back in tire later. Think about your best potential.
Make sure you get enough sleep if you tend to feel out of control. Allow yourself 1-2 hours of relaxed time before going to bed; Avoid exercise, alcoholic beverages, tea, coffee or chocolate, uncomfortable material, problem solving, bright light, even reading between persons before bed. You do not want to interfere with your sleep.
Use my controller test. Could you expect it? Was it unexpected? If you find this or something similar before, how did you deal with it? If it is in your power, take precautions to prevent it from doing too much damage. The effective outcome of past events takes a long way to effectively control stress.
Do not allow minor or imaginary stress to build in a rough unmanageable condition. The only way can be a matter of life or death.