Alcoholics and addicts are encouraged to learn new skills to change the pole that material played in their lives. Some of the most important skills for early recovery are effective communication and communication skills.
Independence is essential for communication and communication skills. This self-confident style not only understands the ability to stand for own rights without compromising the rights of others, but also understands "no" without being guilty. It involves taking responsibility for your own feelings, behaviors, decisions, actions and responses such as being responsible for the same things in others. It implies that you can express a lot of emotion for others.
Freelance, solid behavior understands the ability to openly, honestly and directly communicate wishes and needs. Solid darkness does not involve building immiscible walls. It tells others where you stand and describes a variety of relevant behaviors in relation to you.
Passivity represents the absence of self-esteem and density. It usually involves leaving your own rights, wishes, needs, needs or needs of others. Lack of appropriate limits allows others to entertain you as they like, whatever you want.
Aggression means that others should "have goals for your own will or your needs. It may include verbal, emotional, sexual, mental, or intellectual abuse. This may include treatment and dirty practices People can also be passive-aggressive, which is about to be aggressive in a bad secretive way. More often than not, it's about acting in a secret way. A classic example is a typical backlash, speaking behind some sort of behaviors that you see in the world of work every day Most people show this behavior sometimes. The following are examples of indirect aggressive responses to requests that you do not want to do:
1. Saying "okay" but not having no intention to do it.
2. Saying "okay", I'll do it, but put it off until eventually they do it myself.
3. Saying "okay" , do it, but do a miserable job and think "they will never ask me to do it again."
4. To say "okay", do it and do a good job but go around to all who complain about their imposition in the first place.
5. Instead of saying "no," give 15 excuses why you can not do that and the real reason is that you do not want to.
An obvious place to cope with unwanted request is to say "No, I do not want to do it" or "No thanks" or "No" When you are not used to being independent, simple "No" can be found aggression.
Most people have a part of their lives where they feel quite sure to stand up. Even the one who is least self-assured has somewhere where they can be accusated and most self-reliant individuals are somewhere where they just can not see it.
Skills that you use to be stuck in one area are portable to other areas as it looks like you will always give in. All that is needed to transfer these skills is "risk". The risk is usually a fear of loss when you avoid trying to be tangible. This fear of loss is often caused by damage, self-esteem, damage to goods and services or loss of contact. The majority of time is feared relative to the probability of actual loss.
In order to determine which area you are most self-assured of your ability to be accused, ask yourself whether you are confident and trustworthy when you participate in the following items:
1. Call the phone from network operators without listening to their point of sale?
2. Taking something wrong back to Walmart?
3. Send a steak that is not cooked as you ordered it?
4. Tell your neighbor "no" when he wants to lend something.
5. Set a border with someone at work who tries to use your good character by trying to get you to work or ask you to wear them.
6. Negotiations on changes in workplaces, either because of more money or changes in working conditions.
7. Say no to your sibling who wants something you do not want to give – time, energy or other resources.
8. Say "no" (and stay at "no") to one of the kids who want something you do not want to give, make or buy.
9. Set goals for the previous generation (parents of parents or spouses of parents) when they want to take place in your business where they do not apply (eg money or marriage).
10. Move your emotions with a prominent contrast to others who have done something that involved your feelings being injured.
Can you see patterns in those areas where you want to be a safe company and where you have more trouble? What are they?
Any difficulty can be achieved by practicing skills you already have? If you endangered what would happen?
Look at the areas that lack independence and ask yourself "What's I not willing to quit?"
Much of the time is unttain not based on reality. If you find that you can not be safe in close personal contact, the risk is likely to be fearful of departure. You may be afraid that these important people will not love you if you are honest with them or if you take care of yourself.
Independence is a worthwhile effort. It builds and strengthens self-esteem. Passivity, aggression and passive-aggression tolerate self esteem. Learning to be safe and capable of communicating with others is an important recovery task. Freelance, business communication is part of gaining this communication skills.