We do not communicate verbally with body language 90 + percent of the time. That's why a great way to transfer trust is through our bodies.
The self-esteem has a good posture, with chest and shoulders, head parallel to the ground. He also moves slowly but, more importantly, smooth. As he walks, he goes with conviction and suaveness.
Who would you say apparently safer?
The man whose head is shaking quickly and his eyes are constantly scanning his surroundings while walking? Or the man who looks straight? Something may catch an eye, but he draws his attention slowly towards it. First, it seems to be anxious viewer, like a dove, where movements are a jerk and a constant warning for predators. Another looks confident, as he is contemplating his next adventure.
The job interviewer makes handshakes and movements only as needed? Or is the man playing with a pen constantly when he talks to the recruiter? First, it seems to know his content while others seem to be fidgeting nervously.
The man in line at the sandwich shop looked around constantly; looks behind him when he hears the door open and close; and play with his smartphone? Or is the man with his arms relaxing on his sides and both feet leveled on the ground looking straight ahead? First, it seems to be a constant warning for threats or is too stimulating. The second seems quiet, collected and combined.
The difference is night and day between these two people. The man who moves fast or indirectly does not seem to control his life barely. He tends to make mistakes due to his impulsiveness. Because he makes a mistake, he has to repeat things.
His great source of trust comes from his self-esteem. In fact, he has spent many thousand hours working to get good results, so he knows if he needs to hire these tools to work, as he is sure he will get the results he wants.
He has spent the last two years by responding to the martial arts so that he has developed a good sense of consciousness. He is also quite sure that if someone were attacking him he would be able to defend himself.
He has spent over 1,000 hours learning about fools in a job he is interviewing so that he can speak like power.
Moving only as much as needed-slowly and smooth-trumps movements too much and motivating. The man who moves slowly, fine and well is a man who has control over his life. You live life on your own. You are your husband. You know from previous experience moving just as much as you need both conserves energy and makes you effortless. You know getting the right things for the first time will save your head and finally rework down the line. You earn a lot with low energy and extraction costs; At least, that's how you perceive observer. Furthermore, you look more powerful, because what you get instead of your efforts is much greater than your efforts. Finally, you'll look more accessible, friendly and easier.
Sure, the man in a rush looks like a man who gets it to do it. But this man is also constantly stressed and nervous. Think sad thoughts and soon you will be sad. Think about everything you need "just" to do and you'll soon feel stressed. Have you ever wondered why you are in a hurry? I asked myself the same exact question a few years ago and discovered that I was in a hurry for being in a hurry. In other words, I was moving fast and stressing me solely from the habit!
We're hurried because we're nervous, nervous that someone will discover our inexperience. And then we hurry and hope they will miss seeing the mistakes we make. We hurry to get over quickly so that we can handle our insecurity.
The difference between these two men is their level of experience. Self-esteem was in the same exact position as a less self-confident person. The only difference for this first man was that he was willing to take a risk, ready to accept rejection and failure, and ready to set the time to learn from his mistakes and turn them into success.
Action Always Trumps Fear
When men are in the same situation, the men have two choices: Fight or flight. Self-confidence reduced its resources, continued calm, lay on the ground, and treated the situation. He has practiced for literally thousands of hours and made many mistakes. But he has learned from them too. An inexperienced person became stressed, mainly due to lack of experience. He is desperate to take flight and escape.
The way to appear slow and smooth is to practice for situations that you know you will be in. Do you want to appear independently and smoothly in a job interview? Keep prominent interviews with friends and follow closely the conditions and questions you will probably ask. Be a friend criticize your answers as well as your body language through the interview. Stay in the interviewer to express your interest? Or were you in the chair as if you were unfair? Did you talk fast? Or did you have time? When asked questions, you fumbled clumsy or did you feel safe in your answers? While you could be an authority in your area, how did you show yourself? Nervous and uncertain? Or did you just act like you are power?
Always nervous in social situations because you are not sure what to talk about or how to hold a conversation after wearing all the hobbies? Perhaps you just need more practice in fellowship and learn how to listen to your conversation medium, instead of doing anything to speak yourself. Explain something they said and use it as a gig to other issues. People love to talk about themselves so to listen on purpose and with genuine curiosity. People build connections when they sense genuine compassion and compassion.
It's only a deliberate job that we build our confidence so that when we face similar situations we now know how to respond. In a sense, our answers are the prerequisites and we are just reflecting the process we developed for our study. In that study, we played all the scenarios into meaningful things. We then reconstruct the constructions back to the overall story. When we perform these writes as we spent hours writing, we seem to move slowly, effortlessly and well to the audience.
Even though we have to deal with foreign situations, we have many hours of study to fall. Because the new situation is similar to previous circumstances, we have enough information from previous experience to apply the same method to solve new problems.
We use our body to share about 90 plus percent of time, so you should definitely work to make trust in this way. Start by learning to move slowly. Our bodies are wonderful biofeedback machines. If you have a rough day, smile. Soon your mind will really follow that smile and you'll start to feel better. Emotion stressed all the time? Start moving slowly. Ask yourself why you're in a rush. Is the reason for feeling rushed and focused on a valid one? Or are you just doing it?
A large part of trust is the result of actual experience. So if you lack experience do what it takes to get it. Learning from failure is very important. Embrace it as a learning experience rather than fear it. Ask yourself what's the worst thing that can happen to fail and receive the risk as part of the way to win a prize. We live in a modern world where failure and rejection are far from being life-threatening. The worst thing that can happen is blown our love. So, get there and start collecting data. Life is just one big scientific study: Have fun playing with and experiment with new ways to improve your self-esteem. Once you have enough experience, you will soon find yourself confident when you have problems with new problems. You will be a soft, safe man.
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