Once upon a time there was a young woman who had some problems as a child. Her mom and dad worked for a long time to give her what she wanted and she believed they were not very much around them, but they did not love her. As a teenager, she thought they did not understand her because they set her rules on her behavior and she interpreted her again to mean they did not love her. She used this interpretation of her childhood as the basis of life. . . Teaching their parents for their own mistakes. She still tells her story and she is still trying to live happily after that.
What is your story and how often do you say?
Do you talk about how your mother was an alcoholic and you were embarrassed to make friends at home? Are you connected to what problems you have in your life now – with relationships, at school or at work?
Do you talk about how your father was never there for you and you told the story over and over again because it's not happening in business or in other areas of your life? After all, he did not come to all the games in the Little League, lost his 10th birthday because he was on a business trip and sometimes was not home to say good night. Has this become a story that contradicts something that your positive father always did for you? Do you spoil the good things that have taken place in your life and what major achievements have you made? My father was never there for me and that. . .
Have you spent hours working with your therapists only to return to tell about the old story and strengthen the misunderstanding (or sometimes even reality) years?
Is the story allowed to teach what's wrong with your life in someone or something in the past? Are you tired of living like that and experiencing the same old pain again and again?
Then you need to start telling a new story. Your stories and statements will tend to bring about a reality in your life that can become an independent prophecy.
I know a woman who hated her job. She was afraid to quit because she feared she would not get another and she needed income. She had learned as a child that you have to deal with what bad condition you should be in. She believed that her parents had told her she would "nothing but anything". Her current story, based on the past, was how much she dislike her job, her boss, her work shift. Her story always ended with "I just can not stand this anymore." After a few years of telling this story, she developed her foot problems so seriously that she simply could not resist her tenderness anymore. She realized what she had done and rewrote her story to describe her perfect work. Soon she found it, kept hating her job and could always stand on her own. (By the way, this appears at its best).
Stories are powerful and can be our reality if you often say enough to reinforce every negative thing we can remember from the past.
Why not write your story as you want it to be? And why do not you start now? Start creating your story right now. Write it as you go. And when you start telling an old story based on limitation of faith – as soon as you start to equal that "Once" content, it should remind you that you write a new story that begins today.
Add your new story to what you are grateful for. Emphasize the wonderful freedom you have ensured by forgetting those who are in the past who hurt you and how they helped you develop and grow into an independent adult. Let these events be greatly removed. Emphasize the love you give and surely and your excitement for what comes each day.
Your story can start "Once upon a time. And ending … and I lived happily all day." Tomorrow will bring your own story.
It would be nice to schedule this daily story and one year ago read your first post to see how wonderful your life today and to say your new story has been.