One of the best professional experiences I've ever had was working for a youth care center for the good part of the eighties. I certainly did not make much money there, but what I learned during these six years was invaluable.
HALTS is an abbreviation commonly used for treating medication that can be used extensively in stress management. A HALF approach to managing our stress recommends that we avoid becoming too hungry angry lonely tired afraid.
Hungry – Although food is immediately in mind (when is not it?), There are many other things we can "starve." We all need a sense of value, connection with others and something bigger than ourselves, gratitude and many others. Release some of these basic emotional needs for very long and we can end up being patient or depressed.
Tip: Angry – I got angry, you will be angry, we'll all be angry. No problem there. The problem arises when anger is our most common feeling and our first response to most situations. Recent research has shown that constant anger is not only good for you, it can kill you.
Tip: Give attention to and deal with emotions that anger usually spread out of: fear, frustration, hurt.
Lonely – Despite all the modern ways, we need to communicate with us, we are still living in a culture where it is incredibly easy to be isolated. Most people do not know the names of their neighbors on either side or across the street. I know of people who are "just too busy" to spend time connecting to other people. These people are all too busy for their own interests.
Tip: Take the time to connect and stay connected to others. Walk next door and introduce yourself. Call old friends you have not spoken for a while. Stay connected.
Tired – Vince Lombardi said "Fatigue makes all our sacrifices." It's not what most people do not have time to rest, that is, most people have actually forgotten how. When comes to the perfect form of rest, asleep, when was the last time you got 8 to 10 hours? You can stop laughing now. We can only push ourselves so far before the body takes and encourages us to rest. I have worked with clients who have told me that it's actually a hallmark among their universities to have been in a hospital for emptying. Go to picture.
Tip: In addition to getting enough sleep, take the time to rest. Put it in your command line, and protect it and hold it as if you wanted some other important decree.
Afraid – In the Tarzan movies I watched as a kid, these were native to the shooters who would shoot darts with a poison that would make a person temporarily paralyzed. Fear can do the same – lame us an action. Fear of failure, rejected, success, the future, you name it, we get too scared and freeze.
Tip: Given your fears and taking action, there's plenty of them to reduce or eliminate your fears. Remember, fear is forgetting everything and running and false evidence actually appearing. Courage is not a lack of fear. Courage is to be afraid of something and do it anyway.
We can have too much of one of these on any day, better or worse. Parallel to having two or more may indicate a situation in need of change. Check these tips to cope with your stress or you may want to get someone who can train you to do your stress work for you.